Losing your job is dreadful, no matter what the reason. In this journalist’s mind, it’s better than health issues, divorce, and death — but that’s it.
The new holiday movie Four Christmases reminded me of how we can get trapped with family during the holidays. Under normal circumstances, this is tough enough for some people. But can you imagine having to explain that you’re unemployed to the people you see only once a year?
The truth is, the reason you were fired really doesn’t matter to anyone else. They really only think of you as “unemployed,” “not working,” and “still looking.” That’s how you’re defined.
Even if you were fired due to downsizing and not your performance, that’s still of little comfort to you. No matter how much you try, and regardless of how much you truly believe that your firing was nothing personal, you still can’t help but feel ashamed. And even today when so many people are losing their jobs, hearing “you’re not alone” offers little solace. Whatever the reason, what remains is that you don’t have a job — and a job is how society judges us and defines who we are.
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